Hello
My husband had a massive stroke in April and much the same as your mum suffered paralysis down his left side. He was in hospital for 7 weeks and went through being fed through a tube to a suggestion of a peg being fitted.
Fortunately he began to respond slightly and was given soft food and thickener in his drinks. He suffered delirium and thought his brother was in the next bed and the nurses had parties at night.
He has no balance and several weeks on still has to be hoisted. At the moment he is in a very good care home, and we are on the process of having alterations done to enable us to bring him home.
In all this time he has had no physio. Firstly whilst in hospital he was said to be unresponsive, and nothing since.
We have just been recommended a specialist physio and he has had two sessions. They were very optimistic about him regaining some balance and could feel something going on in his left leg. They were wonderful and have given us hope. Although not cheap the 12 weeks he will receive will, hopefully, be the best money we have ever spent.
I hope at the end of these 12 weeks we will be able to say to NHS physios that they should not have given up on him because he is a previously active 83 year
My best wishes go to you and you will also find some hope.
My mother had a brain bleed stroke 2 years ago. She recovered very, very well physically (could walk with the best of them after 1 year post-stroke). However, she went more or less insane after her stroke, and never recovered her mind. Her speech and memory were excellent after a few months, but that’s unrelated to your emotional state.
All you can do is remain hopeful but realistic, if you know what I mean. Strokes are just terrible. Just hope for the “small” things. I am sorry this happened to you - I really am.
I just about died when you wrote that your husband though the nurses were having parties at night. Well, my mother thought the exact same thing, except she thought my father was partying with them (drinking, etc.). Unreal. We could never convince her otherwise.
My mother, sadly, died a few months ago from complications arising from her brain bleed she had two years prior. She got worse and worse mentally over time, so much so that her irrational mind was going little by little every day. She didn’t want to bathe, take her contact lenses out at night, brush her teeth (this is not all my mother). She was in her early 70s. I will say that she had a good life overall, until her devastating stroke.
May calm and peace come to you in this most difficult time of pain, loss and uncertainty.
4 weeks since my stroke, i get to the stage between 12pm and 2pm that i am better off in my bed resting than being sat on the sofa, i have no energy for anything and my left side is all numb, i am left handed as well
@HeatherP i did a lot of that in the early days & still sometimes need an afternoon nap 21 months on. Go with it fir mow - 4 weeks is no time at all in stroke terms. It should ease over the coming months xx
