Hello again. I suppose I just want to vent to like-minded people or those in a similar situation to me. Pre-stroke my mum has always been a low-level sickly person. Despite some fairly big medical events in her past, day-to-day she was always calling the doctor for small stuff and seemed to always be sent for blood tests and whatnot. So I am trying to bear that in mind… that was her base level and now I have post-stroke things on top of it to deal with.
Please leave a comment in solidarity if you are caring for someone and you’re just an ordinary, non-medically trained person doing their best and worrying frequently that you’re going to miss something or do something wrong?! We still don’t have carers coming (and no idea when they will) and I know carers aren’t nurses, but they probably have more of an idea than I do!
What happened this morning —>
I woke up late this morning to find mum dressed and doing some light housework (emptying dishwasher etc). This is all fine as she is mobile and can do those things. But shortly after she seemed to become woozy and looked off-colour. She expressed that her arms hurt, and I (trying to stay calm) asked her what kind of pain and found out that it was aching, as she did ironing yesterday and hoovered downstairs. Mum has always been very houseproud and I think this is another instance - we have already had one - of her pushing too hard and feeling poorly because of it. I got her to sit down (she won’t go back to bed) and made her a light breakfast. Her colour seems better after eating and now she is taking a nap.
It’s all just SO stressful. The ‘normal’ caring I can deal with because mum’s issues are more with speaking than anything else, and we communicate pretty well. But when she isn’t well I feel very panicked because I am not medically trained and it’s down to me to call the shots on what happens using my best judgement. It’s terrifying.
I did just go through a question and answer thingy on 111 website and that suggested everything is okay. I’m just going to keep a close eye on her, obviously. Thanks for reading if you got this far.