Seems to have got worse since going to hospital

Hi Everyone, Its my very first post so please be gentle!
My Stepmum had a stroke 10 days before Christmas Day and has been in hospital ever since. She’s 74yo and before the stroke she was very independant in her life and hardly ever asked for help with anything.
The stroke has come as a huge shock (for her obviously) but also for me, my sister and our families. She doesn’t have birth children and has lived alone since the death of my father 22 years ago.
On the day of the stroke, even though she had the mouth droop and severe mobility issues, we were able to make out what she was saying, she seemed to also be unaffected in her thought processes and awareness of what was going on.
However, 14 days on, I am seeing a downhill slide in her. She is looking very frail, her speech is almost incoherant and she is extremely sleepy and dispondant.
S&L quickly determind that her swallow reflex was badly affected and she has been on a nasal feed since day 2. I know this is getting her down.
I guess my question is do Stroke survivors sometimes get worse before they get better?
At the family meeting all of the professionals seemed to be pleased with her and said she has the ability to rehab to the point of going home.
Every time I see her I feel so upset afterwards.
Any advise would be welcome, Thank you


@WilburDonut welcome, sorry to hear about your stepmom.

It’s tough seeing someone you love in this situation. If she is unable to swallow, this will affect her weight and as a result will look frail.

It’s only been a couple of weeks, it’s good to hear the professionals are pleased with her progress. She will be tired, the brain is working hard to develop ways around the damage, work at keeping her spirits up as it will be all to is easy for her become despondent.

Progress can be made, don’t give up on her just yet, stay strong and keep positive.

Best wishes to you all

@WilburDonut welcome to our great forum but I’m sorry about your step mum having a stroke.

It’s very early days for her and she’s young sounds like she’s a strong woman.

I found when I was home my determination and professional support which didn’t really happen as I way misdiagnosed and had to fight for support which was 9 months later i improved quickly.
I wanted to do things for myself. Hopefully she will when she comes home.

Gentle encouragement and constant reminders of things she likes doing is helpful for you and your families to remind her.

It’s awful when stroke happens. You will get lots of support off us SS with all our own experiences.

Try to get the care package in place as soon as you can to get her home. That’s my thoughts though I’m not medical trained .

I wish you and her lots of luck kind wishes Loraine

@WilburDonut welcome to the forum but sorry to hear about your step mum.

I think it is very possible to go backwards before moving forward so I wouldn’t be too concerned at this stage; especially as the drs seem content. Not being able to eat properly will make her more frail & the exhaustion that a stroke can bring on is likely to be affecting her too. As will spending a lot of time in bed (if she is).

There is much hope from what you’ve said. Patience is a big part of stroke recovery.

Wishing you all the best.

Ann xx

Sorry to hear this, but do try to trust the professionals. She has only just had her stroke so will look and feel terrible. However, things do the early days most of us are ‘out of it’ because the brain is in shock and has to make new pathways to affected parts. This will take time and is always slower than we and our relatives would like.