It is almost 5 months since having my stroke which turned my life upside down. I didn’t, and to some extent still don’t, believe that it happened to me. I was fit and healthy, never smoked, don’t drink, ran 5-7k three times a week and did lots of walking in between. I had a stressful job and did lots of volunteering but loved it all.
So what have l learnt along the way:
- [ ] That having a stroke was more life changing than I imagined it would be when I was sat in the hospital absorbing the news.
- [ ] That “early days” in stroke terms goes on for months.
- [ ] That stroke survivors need oodles of patience. Not my forte
- [ ] I never knew how tough it would be to do some of the most basic things. I will never forget the delight I felt when I managed to squeeze the toothpaste out the tube with my affected hand. I will never take anything for granted again.
- [ ] This, with the exception of losing my beloved dad to cancer, is without doubt the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
- [ ] What proper fatigue really feels like. No more moaning about feeling tired if I’ve had a hard day.
- [ ] No matter how hard the day always get up and face it head on.
- [ ] That my recovery is going to take significantly longer than I expected and that I was being unrealistic when I thought I’d be back at work in a couple of weeks. (Nothing wrong with hope I suppose😁).
But amongst many negatives I have tried to find the positives:
- [ ] I never realised just how many great friends I had. They have been amazing.
- [ ] I’d never have met (ok virtually but met all the same) so many lovely people as I have on this forum.
- [ ] The amazing support I have had from my work colleagues.
- [ ] The things I thought mattered before really don’t. I no longer get stressed because the housework hasn’t been done or the towel isn’t folded correctly (yes, really, these things used to bother me).
- [ ] That no matter how bad I feel there is always someone significantly worse off than me.
- [ ] That I’m more resilient than I ever imagined I could be.
- [ ] Rest is a good thing and I don’t need to feel guilty for sitting down and doing nothing.
I don’t know what life has in store for me going forward……probably best I don’t know. I am trying to work out what the new me will be like and what the new normal will be but whatever it is I hope I can embrace it and come out the other side a better person.
Here’s wishing each and every one of you a brighter future and a successful journey through recovery.
I really appreciate all the support from this forum. It’s a great place to share and learn with no judgements. You’re all amazing & inspirational people.