@mrfrederickson , I’ll let you into a little secret that I wouldn’t normally have posted on here. I have soiled myself about 4 or 5 times since my stroke. My main problem is that I still have some numbness down my left side that includes my left bum cheek and left side of my sphincter.
They haven’t been huge accidents but still rather messy and embarrassing. Luckily I am able to clean up myself and get into the shower if it happens, however I am paranoid on the one day a week I go into the office. On those days I make multiple trips to the loo the try and go but also to double check all is well.
It is another horrible thing to deal with, but find a way to deal with it we must.
I could look on the bright side and say thank god I’m not fully and permanently incontinent.
I held off posting this when I first saw your post but I fully sympathise with your situation and thought I’d let you know you’re not alone.
Try to stay positive and I hope yours was a one off