Hi, my name is Pam
My husband had a severe stroke eight months ago. He is very debilitated on his left side, his sight has been affected and sometimes has confusion. He has just turned 70.
After 4 months in hospital he came home with a package of 2 carers 4 times a day. I did all I could but after 7 weeks, having only slept for two nights I was exhausted. His demands were unbelievable all day and night. Then at night because he had severe pain would demand more morphine. If I refused because it wasn't due the powder keg would go and he'd get so angry. He did attack me with his right arm a few times, actually slapping me hard and punching me in the back. Another time whilst cleaning his nails with a little scissors he threatened to stick them in my throat. This was the last straw and it was arranged for him to go into respite.
He has now been in the home for 3 months as the CPN team and social worker have said its too much for me. He rings me on his mobile and blames me for everything. The abuse and nastiness is awful.
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this and if so how did you cope.
Thanks.