My mom suffered the first TIA in Dec 2020. On one late Dec morning of 2020, she woke up and felt numbness on her face and fingers. The paramedics came, evaluated and decided that she did not need to go to ER. However, I insisted my mom to go. We spent more than 10 hours in the ER. They did took MRI and other tests. By midnight, we decided to go home as the hospital would not give her a bed. We were sitting in the waiting most of the time. They said because of covid, they would not have a bed for her and that it would take at least 16 hours to get the results. They said they would call us if the MRI and other tests showed that she needed to get back to the hospital. Since they did not call and my mom felt normal the next day, we carelessly moved on, without calling the hospital for the results to see it it was a stroke.
Three weeks ago, 17 months after the first TIA, she suffered another TIA. Early morning on July 28th, she went to the bathroom but lost control of her right leg. She lost her balance but managed not to fall. The ambulance came and took her to the same ER. She spent one night there. The MRI showed she had ischemic stroke. The latest MRI also shows the scars from the previous MRI.
Now, three weeks after the second TIA, she’s still struggling with fatigue, lost of appetite. I really regret for not being more mindful about the first stroke she had back in 2020. Since it was so mild and I was not well informed on stroke, I did not guide my mom with correct actions. Her family doctor did prescribe her high blood pressure meds, but she did not take them because when she used her at home bp monitor, her numbers were always good (below 120). Even when she was seen by her family doctor one month after the first stroke, the doctor said her blood pressure was ideal (he thought the medication he gave her did the magic). So, between her first stroke and the second one, she did not take the medication the doctor gave her because the blood pressure monitor always gave her perfect numbers. Between her first and second stroke, once in a while she complained she was tired and the numbness of her fingers was still there.
Had I read up and paid attention, the second stroke would have not happened. I am regretting and feeling guilty the last three weeks.
Now she’s on the medications that were prescribed for her (blood thinner, high blood pressure, aspirin 81mg and iron supplement). However, her blood pressure is not going down (it’s fluctuates between 137 and 105). She checks her blood pressure after 3 hours throughout the day. The highest is about 137 and the lowest is 105. Most of the time it’s between 130-132. Also, her heartbeat is on the fast side (between 82-90).
I just am not sure why she had 2 ITA when before 2020, her blood pressure, cholesterol level and everything else were in ideal range. She exercised for 1 hours everyday. Has anyone experience the same thing? I know regretting will not make things better now, but I just don’t want to make anymore mistake. What can we do now to prevent another stroke from happening? We all agree that she will need to stay on her meds as prescribed by the doctor, even if her readings are in ideal range. She’s been trying to exercise again, but the fatigue has been an issue. I also try to get her healthy meals but she lost her appetite.
My mom is the whole world to me and I am just afraid to lose her. She’s will turn 79 in 2 days and I understand that everyone will lose their mom at one point, but I just praying to God so she can recover and live healthy for another 10 years. Is it possible for a 78 years old female to live somewhat healthy for 10 years after 2 TIAs? I love you mom.
Thank you all for reading.