Lonely

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feeling low after christmas as family are too far, and weather not great, no groups happening hubby dont mindm i cant talk to him about problems, need a like minded person to talk to

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I felt the same way. Everything I do is difficult and my sons are not really interested in anything besides recovery because it is too hard for them. I hated this holiday and felt like I couldn’t wait for it to be over. Sorry for the bah humm bugg but it’s the truth. I’m still hoping to get better, as I’m 7 months out so maybe next Christmas will be better.

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Sorry to hear you’re both struggling @tricia3
& @Mbhope.

Christmas can be a difficult time for many as lots of things shut down & normal routines are altered. All the things we normally immerse ourselves in just aren’t about for a couple of weeks.

Last year I had only just come out of hospital & spent the festive season watching from the sidelines. A year on I have been able to participate a little bit more although not to the extent I used to.

Hang in there it’s just a few days till everything returns to normal. There’s usually someone around on here if you need to reach out.

Best wishes.

Ann x

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Tricia. We are all here to help. It is a sad truth, but others, including family, do not understand how lonely we feel sometimes. Often they think we will get ‘better’ but stroke isn’t like the flu. I do my best to remain upbeat, but it’s hard sometimes…mostly because we cannot do what we want or go anywhere at the drop of a hat. Try to find comfort in ‘the small things of everyday’. That could be a moment’s bird song, an unexpected flower in bloom or just knowing you are in a warm house with a roof over your head. Hard, I know, but looking for the positives is better than dwelling in the negatives.

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thanks for replying, it was nice at sons, as he is so caring, its when i come home as family are so far away and me and hubby are different i need to see people, he isnt so bothered, the weather is wet,i d get tired, but walked 2 miles today and when i was there as i got confused where the footpath was, as i went a bit further

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thanks just get lonely being away from family, they are in essex, me in somerset. son =in tamworth area

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thanks,my son is very caring

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look awful with new hat

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Thank you @Mrs5K . I can identify with @tricia3 because physical deficits inhibit activities which then turns into a spiral of loneliness and isolation.

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Mbhope–I’ve been where you’re at. 7 months out is not far at all. I was really “down” then. I asked a friend, who’d had a stroke when she started to fell “better”, like “herself again”? She laughed and said “at about 4 years.” I know that sounds like a long way away, but you will continue to feel better all around as each month goes by . There’ll be more and more good days, and the “feeling good” times will last longer, and one day you’ll realize that you’ve had 3 good days strung together, and then a whole week. I am feeling pretty good now, and it has been about 4 years. But they have not been 4 bad years, just 4 years of getting closer and closer to feeling good. Hang in there. :slightly_smiling_face: Jeanne P.S. You’re allowed to feel glum now and then . Everyone is.

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@axnr911
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I just had an occupational therapist tell me I may have this thalimic pain for life but I think we can all be more hopeful if recovery, albeit small, can continue for YEARS. I SO needed to hear this.

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Yes it can be hard people do not understand always what a stroke can do hope u find thec right support soon we are always here with kind regards des

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@tricia3 @Mbhope Hi both and everyone else on here, I can only say that you have to keep going, @Mahoney @Mrs5K @axnr911 have said it all already - we are all here to support each other, to help when we are down and to have a laugh and a joke when we are that little bit stronger. Please don’t stop visiting this site, we are all just a typed message away! John aka Bert

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thanks went to the charity shop today, can only do a couple of hours, missed the bus back, o had to walk from main road, erxuasted, as it up hill to top of village

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Great that you’re able to help at the charity shop. Well done on the walk too x

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thanks didnt look round much, or buy anything,glad when holidays are over as noone visits, dont think anything is happening here, happy new year

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Thank you. I feel like I need a lot of information and stroke survivor support. No progress for the last three months is hard. I appreciate all of you.

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