Hi everyone,
I'm so sorry if this is a lengthy post; I really could do with some reassurance or even just someone to say they understand and it's ok.
Im 32 years old and I had a stroke on 11th Dec 18, so I'm in the early stages of recovery. Part of my brain was damaged because of the delay getting treatment - but recovery wise I can walk, and use my left side again which I'm led to believe is quite quick and very positive for what happened.
I'm left with a stammer and the doctors said I may struggle with emotion. I'm still having tests to see why it happened. I'm usually very active. I'm off from work still which affects my mood and it's still very uncertain as to what will happen with my role, this is hard to think about.
I've managed depression a long time ago and found different coping strategies. These helped keep me positive and ordinarily, if I ever feel low..they work to get me out of my mood.
Recently I've been trying to give reasons to my partner to excuse how low I feel or if I'm quiet. For example blaming my quietness on something that irritated me or finding something to have an issue with so that I can feel in control of fixing it.
The last few days have been the worst; yesterday I found myself sitting in the bath thinking.. if I had a huge stroke or something happened it would be a relief not having to cope anymore. I have a busy head as it is - so managing my emotions and trying to hide just how low I feel is taking its toll. I feel mentally exhausted, like I've had enough.
In addition to this my partner and I have a lot of outside stress at the moment (our relationship is incredible and I know I'm lucky for that) but having the stroke makes me feel guilty for adding to our pile of stress.
I won't do anything silly to end it, I just know that it wasn't right to want relief from this constant weight on my shoulders.
I called the stroke helpline and they said it might help to get in touch with others so here goes... I've been reading your stories and it would really help to hear some reassuring words.
Thanks for reading...
Jessica