Dear June
So sorry to learn of the stroke that bit you. Welcome to the forum. Lots of us are here for you.
John and Nic have already made good points. Some other ideas that might help are:
Recovery is years not days. Recovery will not take you back to prestroke. It cant. A bit of your brain is permanently disabled so you will not be the same person. You will be "new June" and maybe in some respects you will be even better than the old June.
If you had your leg amputated then everyone can see that and act with some compassion. They wont expect you to join in the gkids sports day. Your amputation is inside your head and others can not see it. If needs be, in response to the "you look well" is "can you see inside my head".
I too am 71 so please dont think age has a great deal to do with anything. The mobility side of recovery is easier than the "cognitive". Most of us have SF (stroke fatigue, medically termed post stroke tiredness) we have emotionality, whereby we cry without suitable reason, a few of us laugh which is possibly worse. We get overwhelmed. We get anxious. Our confidence goes walk about. Our memories are impaired and now work differently. In my case I have probably forgotten several basic points for this post.
Going to the local stroke group is very helpful. Only another SS really understands. I found counselling very helpful. Has to be a stroke trained counsellor.
Do come online and ask about anything.
Your final sentence refers, I think, to wanting some help from those that have been helped by you. Do not hold your breath. Those that will truly help are probably already helping. Many of us have families that run for the hills. They might be OK for six weeks, but I think our human nature doesnt cope with anything more than six weeks.
Of course you say no to helping others, as you did pre stroke, I have then worked on finding what I can help with. In context, I am an FCA and used to volunteer to help with peoples tax and pensions. And do the church accounts etc. It took me two years to be able to wait on tables, make tea and coffee and then take up a voluntary admin job of about three hours a month. Not that you will follow my example, but I am trying to explain the depths we have to go to during our recovery.
I quite like making tea and coffee. And doing the odd things that I can cope with..
I also have learnt to rabbit on far too much
Smile a lot.
Be positive. All those things you can do, not the things you can not.
You are not alone
Colin