My stroke was 17 months ago everyone says how well Iām doing but I feel like shouting that I canāt see it myself especially with my left hand. I do exercises ever day but so fed up of them so stayed in bed all today for the first time since I came home last November. Iām feeling guilty for doing that 
hubby had a cold over the weekend 
I just feel like itās something else Iāve got to deal with. Has anyone here got a release with their weak hand .I can grip but not release despite all the work I put in 
does the hand feel different when it can open ?gosh Iām sorry to moan coz I knowi all have problems but my tears have flowed again today .
Love and best wishes to all 
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@christine2 i canāt help with the hand issue but just wanted to send you love & hugs and hope that tomorrow is a better day for you 
Stay strong.
Ann xx
Hi Chritine2. I know exactly what you mean! My stroke was 4 months ago and if anyone else says how well Iām doing I think Iāll hit them cause I canāt see it either! Iām hobbling around the house with a stick but itās such an effort. My left foot rolls over which puts me off walking as if my husband isnāt with me I will fall. The physios have given me a splint but really itās not helping that much. My left arm and hand is a nightmare. I too have been doing the exercises for both my leg and arm but my arm will still wave around manically unless I hang on too it. My hand is stiff and although I can sort of pick certain things up I am quite likely to drop them and not realise Iām not holding them anymore. So yes Christine I know exactly how you feel - there just seems no end to it all. Take care
Janet
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Hugs - itās horrid isnāt it? And all those people (including my mothers neighbour who is a retired doctor and should know better) who say āyou do look wellā - I could definitely hit them.
I canāt help with the hand problem, my main problem is still tiredness and balance, but definitely can relate to the frustration - have Covid at the moment
Just sending support and hugs. hang on in there. 
Thank you all for your kindness and support still feeling rough today but hopefully be better tomoz
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I know what you describe for your ability to grasp and release.
Mines the same
Itās improving slowly. I do stuff everyday and use it for everything I almost can.
Iām definitely making more progress now than a year ago but it isnāt even.
Learning how to relax the muscles not wanted is the major challenge. Havenāt found the way to equal the challenge yet
Thanks - it doesnāt seem to have any of its own symptoms at all - just made the stroke ones worse - weird! Seem to be getting over it now
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Iāve got covid now feel rough
Hi Christine2- I had my stroke 8 yrs ago, like you i still have problems with my left side. I can move my hand & fingers a little and wear a splint on my left leg as my foot slopes to the left leg. I have difficulty with my left shoulder as i fell whilst recovering, dislocating my shoulder, I know how frustrating it must be. In a morning i sit on the edge of the bed & try and do the excercises i have been shown, I also try to do things in a different way to what they tell you. It"s hard i know but did you have any hobbies before your stroke? I love to knit & found a way to keep knitting slightly different. I joined our local craft club but it"s a struggle sewing but i try with help from the other members plus i am lucky my husband helps me if a sewing machine is involved , i do the tacking there then bring it home & he machines it. I can manage with a steamer to cook a dinner but my husband does the meat. Although he has a heart condition (had since i have known him -married 53 yrs) between us we manage somehow. Keep trying & you will find your own way of doing things, so donāt give up. love Brenda
Thank you all so much for your get well messagesā:smiley:I think Iāve turned a corner ā¦ throat better no temperature still a bit snotty but feel a lot brighter in myself 
Iāve bin exercising in my bed to keep moving so not feeling stiff or anything. Getting up and dressed today yes I do have hobbies Iām writing a book started 2years b4 my stroke but Iāve got going on it again which makes me very happy . Hope everyone is doing ok xx
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Thanku Brenda for your lovely message I was interested that you are 8 years after your stroke do you still feel improvements can happen ? After 17 months perhaps I shudnt get so frustrated with my hand and fingers ā¦ some days I can move them a bit itās the reaching out for something and picking it up Iād like to be able to do physio says my arm and shoulder are strong enough .
@christine2 glad to hear youāre starting to feel better. Letās hope the rest disappears quickly.
Writing a book tooā¦wow thatās amazing xx
Hi Christine
Iām sending a huge hug.
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Hi @christine2 i had/have this issue and my stroke was 4 years ago tomorrow Valentines Day . I have to watch my hand and concentrate, it doesnāt come naturally. If my hubby comes and takes my mug without warning we end up having a tug of war, he has to let go and allow me to give it to him. Itās improved so much but still there. Although you donāt realise it you will have come so far sometimes it may help to write a diary of progress and goals.
All the best xx