I am completely lost as to what to do and feel I have hit a brick wall.
My Mum had a stroke 3 months ago, luckily she wasn’t affected physically but her cognition isn’t great. She has been living with my since she was discharged and I’m finding it tough caring for her, being a wife, looking after my children and holding down a full time job.
She has other problems besides the stroke affects, which means she is on alot of medication. I am trying to make her more independent but there have been a few times now where she has either forgotten to take the meds or taken too many.
She does no exercise (due to shortness of breath) and when I explain that she needs to help herself she thinks I’m nagging. She often goes to bed and says she doesn’t feel well. I am now struggling to get her to eat. I can make her a sandwich ready for her lunch but I’m exhausted now trying to micromanage everything. If I make her something she will eat, if I don’t she will go without. She is now 6st 8.
She doesn’t want a carer, she doesn’t want to go into a care home she just wants to be with me but I’m really struggling to manage. I have to take time off of work to take her to various hospital appointments and my marriage is now suffering.
Is there any advice or someone I can contact to get help. She doesn’t seem to understand the effect it is having on me, I have told her but she just forgets. When I tell her she needs to help herself and there is only so much I can do she just says she doesn’t need my help but she clearly does. She has become very reliant on me and I’m now breaking. All she does is sot infront of the tv all day or goes up to bed.